‘I figured I’d do the best with what I knew’
Nagsalita na rin si Johnny Depp tungkol sa pagwawakas ng kanyang 14-taong relasyon kay Vanessa Paradis sa July 4 issue ng Rolling Stone. Inihayag ng never-wed couple (magulang nina Lily-Rose, 14, at Jack, 11) ang kanilang paghihiwalay noong Hunyo 2012, ngunit nanatiling tahimik ang notoriously tight-lipped actor ng Lone Ranger sa hiwalayan — hanggang ngayon.
“The last couple years have been a bit bumpy,” sabi ni Johnny sa magazine. “At times, certainly unpleasant, but that’s the nature of breakups, I guess, especially when there are kiddies involved.”
Pagpapatuloy ni Johnny, 50, “Relationships are very difficult. Especially in the racket that I’m in because you’re constantly away or they’re away and so it’s hard. It wasn’t easy on her. It wasn’t easy on me. It wasn’t easy on the kids. So, yeah. The trajectory of that relationship — you play it out until it goes, one thing leads to another. So for whatever reason that ceases, it doesn’t stop the fact that you care for that person, and they’re the mother of your kids, and you’ll always know each other, and you’re always gonna be in each other’s lives because of those kids. You might as well make the best of it.”
Kumpara sa kanyang mga breakup sa mga nagdaang kasintahan na sina Kate Moss at Winona Ryder, sinabi ni Johnny na mas naging mature siya sa paghihiwalay nila ni Vanessa. “In terms of the breakup, I definitely wasn’t going to rely on the drink to ease things or cushion the blow or cushion the situation,” sabi ng bituin, kilala sa pagkakalat sa mga hotel room noong early ’90s. “‘Cause that could have been fatal. I felt it was my duty to be real clear throughout that. I had something pretty serious to focus on, really, which was making sure that my kids were gonna be cool.”
Sinabi ni Johnny sa Rolling Stone na maayos namang tinanggap ng kanilang mga anak ang paghihiwalay nila ng 40-anyos na French model at actress. “They’ve been incredibly understanding, incredibly strong throughout the whole ordeal. And it’s hard on every side. You know, Vanessa’s side, certainly not easy. My side, not easy. The kids are the most complicated,” paliwanag niya. “The thing is, kiddies come first. You can’t shield them, because then you’d be lying. So you can at least be honest with your kids, and you say the absolute truth to your child — that was very important to not pussyfoot around.”
Hanggang sa isilang si Lily-Rose noong 1999, sinabi ni Jonny na hindi niya nauunawaan ang kanyang purpose in life bukod sa pag-aarte. “It really was as if a veil was lifted, and things became clearer, and I went, ‘Oh, I f-cking get it now! That’s what it’s for! That’s what it’s for, this beautiful little creature that I took part in creating, making.’ I didn’t have a real handle on what life was supposed to mean or be or anything like that. And I still don’t. And I’m not sure that life is supposed to mean anything or be anything at all,” pagninilay ng aktor. “But as long as you have the opportunity to breathe, breathe. As long as you have the opportunity to make your kid smile and laugh, and move it forward.”
Hindi nagsalita si Johnny tungkol sa kanyang 27-anyos na kasintahang si Amber Heard (na nakilala niya habang ginagawa ang pelikulang The Rum Diary noong 2011), ngunit ipinaliawanag niya na ang pagpapalaki sa kanya ay nakaapekto sa kanyang mga pilosopiya sa parenthood.
“I wouldn’t say my youth was the perfect model in terms of raising a kid. It was a relatively violent upbringing. If you did something wrong, you got hit. If you didn’t do something wrong, you got hit. But my parents, they did the best they could with that they knew, and so I figured I’d do the best with what I knew, which was do pretty much the opposite from what you guys did — and I think I’ll be all right,” sabi ni Johnny sa Rolling Stone.
“Not to say they were bad parents, because they weren’t. They just didn’t know any different, and it was a very different time. My mother was raised in a shack, in the wilds of Appalachia, where the toilet was an outhouse. She used to say she did the same things that her mom did — and her mom certainly didn’t know any better. With my kids, they’re told 75 times a day that they’re loved. One thing I know is they feel loved and secure and happy and needed and necessary and a part of something,” aniya. – Us Weekly